Let Me Know It's Real: 7 Ways to Know You're Being Catfished1:37 PM
The MTV reality show Catfish has become one of my favorite shows. The series gives people the chance to meet the real person they have been dating online for the first time in, and usually the person they meet is far from what they expected. The show has changed the way that people have looked at online dating making them thing twice before adding random people on Facebook. Of course some of the stories seem far stretched and avoidable (like being engaged with someone you never met) but the crazy thing is, it could happen to anyone. Even you. After watching the show, and using this thing called common sense, we've piled together a fool proof way to see if your dream guy is as real as he says he is.
1. You're dating a model
|My BF is an A&F model and looks just like Trey Songz!|
2. Can never meet
Is your dream guy always dropping out of dates and cancelling meetups? If he's always cancelling or something comes up, ask him what's up. Is he really busy, or is he hiding something from you?
3. Face Time
Not being able to see each other in person because you two are in different cities or even countries is okay,but not being able to video chat is another thing. Web cams come pretty cheap and with free services like Oovoo and Skype, there's really not a reason that you can't video chat with someone. If you're online crush is constantly giving excuses as to why he can't show his face online, there's a high chance that he isn't who he says he is.
4. Camera Shy
The first place to look when you're trying to find out if you're being Catfished is your boo's Facebook and Instagram. Scope through the photos. Are there lots of photos? Are the photos diverse and taken at different times? Are there other people in the photos? Are they tagged? If the only thing you see are two bathroom pics then you have every right to be suspicious.
5. Pic texts
6. What About Your Friends
If your crush is on Facebook, take a look through his friend list. Does he have a lot of friends? Now check his timeline. Has anyone tagged him in photos Birthday wishes aside, do his friend write on his wall? A "no" to any of those questions should raise an eyebrow. If you want to investigate a little further, add some of his friends on Facebook and start asking them about your boo. Instead of coming right out and asking if your boo is a fake, ask questions like, "Are you close with so-and-so?" or "Have you hung out with him lately". Talking with his friends will help you get to know him better and reveal if he's hiding behind a front.
There have been some rare cases on Catfish where the person being investigated isn't hiding behind a fake profile, but sometimes this person is making a fantasy life for himself. He'll boast online that he flies around everywhere and owns a Bugatti, but have never traveled outside of city limits and still ride a bus. To see if everything they say is real, ask him to give you a video tour or send photos if he can.
These are only a few of many ways to see if your online crush is real. When it comes to finding love online, your most trusted tool will be your gut. If you feel something is off about your boo, follow your gut and start asking questions.
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