Surviving a Long Distance Relationship

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One of the craziest myths I've ever run into is the belief that Long Distance Relationships are destined to fail. I once talked to a recently married friend  who was dating her boyfriend (now hubby) for over four years and exclaimed that if he had moved away, they would've broken because there was no way that it would work. I thought it was funny, since I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years now and 85% of our relationship has been long distance. That's why I always laugh when I hear about people talking about preparing for Dunksgiving and breaking up before college. Keeping a LDR working is a lot of work, but it's not impossible if two people are actually willing to commit to it (you know, like any other relationship). Here are just a few of the things you need to have if you're going to make your LDR work.

Trust
This is a must in relationship, but especially with a LDR. You need to be able to trust your partner will respect you and your relationship together by staying faithful. Without trust, your relationship is already doomed.
Communication
When you're not able to see each other for weeks or months at a time you have to find other ways to keep in touch. The BF and I wrote each other while he was in basic training and of course talked and texted when he was allowed. But even just talking over the phone isn't enough sometimes, especially when you aren't able to see your partner's facial expressions to tell if they're being sarcastic or serious. Thankfully, there are a lot of free apps like Tango, Skype, and Face Time that are available to talk "face to face". Speaking of Face time...

Face Time
I honestly don't think long distance relationships can last without seeing each other in person every once in a while. So start planning your next meet up now!

Those are all my tips on surviving an LDR! If you have anything to add, leave a comment below!

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6 comments

  1. I too have been in a three-year-long LDR, most of which has been long distance! Trust is absolutely crucial. You really have to be okay with the fact that you don't know 100% of what your SO is doing, which is super hard for some people. You also have to be committed...like really committed. I don't think it works otherwise, and it's really not worth the effort if both people don't think the relationship is something worth keeping. It's hard but it's unbelievably worth it. :) I think you covered the main points well!

    Xoxo,
    Taylor
    http://tayloryates.wordpress.com

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    1. Yes, someone who understands! Thanks for your reply, and it is so worth it especially when you meet the right person!

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  2. I don't they're destined to fail but you must trust the person COMPLETELY prior to getting into one. Same with him or her. It has to work both ways and everyone must put in their fair share in order for it to work.

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    1. I agree. You can't make a relationship work if both people aren't willing to in the same amount of work.

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  3. One of the things that attract people to LDR is that you have a chance to want something unattainable. The whole sense of pining for someone adds a certain element of romantic melancholy -- the soldier away at war, the traveling spouse, the lover living across the Atlantic. LDRs work, if you work it ….and realize that eventually the proximity (days or distance) will have to close. Do you think it’s possible to be in long term LDRs?

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